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It’s an unfortunate correlation, especially with the hard work poured in and the challenges these individuals have gone through to triumph over life. Moreover, this circumstance often befalls them due to factors beyond their control. Putting this perspective into numbers, nearly 8% of households have single parents as the head. 84% of these are single moms, representing 101.3 million mothers living without partners and caring for their children alone.
There are numerous reasons why women become single moms. It can be through unfortunate, natural, and inevitable causes like death or the irresponsibility and immaturity of partners. But it’s the expected outcome that women are the ones left with the primary control and authority.
How Single Moms Raise Strong Children
Author Joseph Waddy writes about the capacities and strengths of single moms in his book Bertha’s Son. It’s one detailing a story about perseverance and growing bigger than the traumas tying people down. It follows Albertha, who gets impregnated and unfortunately left by Cyril, who flees when he knows she is with a child.
However, instead of going through the most straightforward route and dropping the responsibility and burden altogether, Albertha bravely raised the child. She ignored the possible criticisms regarding her situation and loved her child wholeheartedly. With pure affection toward her child, Albertha didn’t foster any grudge or associate the child with his immature father. She took care of and reared him through the trials and tribulations that awaited their family.
What Albertha experienced isn’t far from what most single moms have gone through. Like her, they were also left with no other choice, but they decided to push through with building a family despite there being no masculine figure. They face the waters alone, firmly crashing against the waves of life to raise their children whom they grow to love and cherish genuinely.
Without partners, these single moms learn to stand as masculine on top of being the nurturers. They juggle both roles, a consequential responsibility to bear alone. It’s no easy feat. Hence, if they provide their children anything beyond the essentials, it’s a solid role model to look up to in life.
Love Is One’s Mother, One’s Superhero
Adapting in life is among the most crucial traits people should learn to do. It’s a consequential ability they must have to succeed through life’s unpredictability. While it’s not easy, single moms are among those who possess this naturally. Having an identity, women don’t always need men to lean on and complete their lives. They’re more than capable of thriving and succeeding on their own. And society has given them more than enough opportunities to do so.
However, when it comes to building a family, a masculine presence has been deemed a necessity to foster a stronger foundation. With women to nurture, men are supposedly their counterparts and contribute strength to the connection. But with the prevalence of single parenthood in today’s society, it has also become apparent that perhaps both roles aren’t strictly necessary so long as the remaining figure is able to provide and stand as both.
This is what single moms have brought to the table.
A superhero without a cape, mothers who make a home out of a solitary pillar maximize the capacities they have for parenting. With resilience, strength, and determination as their powers, these women empower the community and make them realize the genuine affection and maturity they have to build a family. Emotionally, women are nurturing and understanding and have the innate ability to find joy and fulfillment in being mothers. By seeing their children grow and develop into driven and decent humans, single moms perceive this as an achievement, a measure of their purpose.
Instead of giving everything up, single moms strive to tick every necessary element, creating a home.
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