Grief is a compelling emotion. The loss of somebody important to you, whether a family member, a spouse, or a friend, is one of the most complicated challenges life will present to us, causing intense grief and remorse to those coping with grief. The process of grieving is necessary to conquer the feelings of deep depression, sadness, and remorse, but it is also a long one, lasting over six months to 4 years. 

Studies show that healthy habits and emotional and social support help people recover from the loss independently. The grieving process is a personal experience, with many people experiencing it differently from others: some may be sent into a deep depression and isolate themselves from the world. In contrast, others may spend their grieving process partying and drinking with friends. There is no right or wrong grieving process for everybody, and there is no “schedule” nor “timeline” to follow. There is no need to be ashamed of crying, breaking down, or struggling coping with grief. There is no wrong in asking for help, love, or acknowledgment from others. If help is needed, seek it. 

Turn to friends and family members.

Although it is perfectly acceptable to withdraw and seek isolation from others, it is best to seek the company of others and accept the company and love offered from them. People want to help those they love, especially those struggling – whether it be a hug, a comforting hug, or somebody to listen to them. Let them help. It will make everything better in the long run.

Accept the feelings that will be experienced and find comfort. 

The grieving process is a very long and emotionally exhausting process, with the recurrent emotions of sadness, emptiness, anger, and even numbness making their appearance often throughout the procedure. Because of this, express your feelings in a cathartic manner: paint, draw, dance, or sing. Let out all of the emotions being held back, and do not let them consume everything about you. Another suggestion is to employ catharsis through writing a journal or stories and even volunteering for causes dear to the person who passed away. All of these let these recurrent emotions bottling up be released through something enjoyable and memorable. Attempt to find comfort in activities and hobbies and maintain a consistent routine for a feeling of normality. Try to eat healthily, go to sleep at a good time, and exercise. Read books, such as books on any type of loss by Vonne Solis. Avoid alcohol and drugs as this will not help and only damage what you already have. If you or a loved one are struggling to cope, seek professional help such as a therapist or a grief counselor. There is no need to suffer alone. Do not rush the process and take care of those struggling, especially yourself.  

Join a support group.

The bereavement process is a very isolating experience for many people, so reaching out for emotional support, even in social situations, is beneficial for one’s health. Ask a therapist or doctor, or search online for suggestions to find support groups tailored to your needs. 

Take care of those who are also grieving. 

Try to spend time with other people struggling to cope with their grief. Try to have a cup of coffee with a family member, play a game with them, or listen to their problems. Try to make them feel acknowledged, loved, and known when they are given the burden of trying to cope with a loss. 

Talk to a therapist or a counselor. 

If you or a loved one are coping with grief, find a mental health professional specializing in grief and bereavement. Remember, there is no shame in asking for help in life, and there is no shame in struggling. Allowing yourself to be helped and loved is the bravest thing anybody can do. You can do this.