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Some of us are more comfortable with uncertainty, while others feel uneasy and overwhelmed in these situations. In a memoir about an alcoholic husband by Margaret J. Moschak entitled My Alcoholic, My Love: My Love and Loss of an Alcoholic Husband, we learn a lot of valuable lessons that we can use and reflect on in our lives. From various perspectives, we can focus on the present and overcome instances that tested our resiliency.
To carry out the experience, here are some takeaways we can get from reading the book:
Perspective
The best way to give yourself a new perspective is to look at your situation as a neutral observer. Imagine that you’re watching a reality show about your own life. You can also find a fresh perspective by grounding in what is important to you and your values.
You can also get a viewpoint by tapping into your belief system. One of the most potent held beliefs is that everything happens for a reason, is happening for a cause, and is happening for our greatest good. Even if we can’t see it at the time, this view has been one of the essential sources of peace of mind when faced with uncertainty.
Excavate
Dig down deep. The power comes when you allow what is happening at an unconscious level to go to the surface. When we feel fear around uncertainty, we often don’t even know what the fear is.
Acceptance
Acceptance isn’t about giving up and feeling overpowered. It’s about coming to terms and accepting the truth in the situation. When we assume that things are unsure, we can move on from hoping things and deal with what is right in front of us.
Examine the level of Control
In every situation, there are factors within our control and things that are not. However, we are often so attentive to external out-of-control factors that it feels like everything is out of control. But remember, there are a lot of things we can control.
Open Up
Talking to someone about fears and problems, as well as our yearnings and objectives, is helpful for us to ease the burden. A problem shared is a problem halved. Studies have shown that merely talking about our issues and sharing our negative feelings with somebody we trust can be profoundly therapeutic, reduce stress, boost our immune system, and reduce bodily and emotional distress.
Meditate
Meditation helps get our nervous system from a sympathetic to a parasympathetic state. This relaxes our bodies and makes us feel safer, calmer, and clearer.
Initiate action
Sitting in uncertainty only makes it worse. We don’t know what the future brings until we do something about it. We lose confidence when we stand firm at the edge of something, wondering, waiting, worrying if we can do it. But when we leap a faith and get started, our confidence builds. By pushing our boundaries, we can learn to do other things we think we can’t but are capable of doing.
Focus on the present
Perhaps we are anxious about something happening to someone we love. Being grateful at the moment is the greatest virtue of all. Take time to show how much we adore them and say what we want to tell them. Enjoy every little moment with someone we love and focus on the present moment. In this way, we can be more comfortable facing uncertainty.
If you want to get over all these tribulations and live life to the fullest, get to know more about the book and be inspired by the website https://www.myalcoholicmylove.com/author/. If you want to get a copy, kindly visit directly to Amazon.com and proceed to read the book at your most convenient time. Happy reading, everyone!
