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Failure is a requisite in life. Everyone has their fair share of it, and it’s imperative to bounce back from setbacks and push through with life.

Failures. Losses. Heartbreaks.

These are perpetually present throughout life, showered fairly across people’s experiences. Everyone encounters them in one way or another. Some may have more fortune and luck on their hands that they hardly ever cross paths with debilitating events. But others may be more susceptible or claim more detrimental consequences and events from these circumstances.

Either way, everyone has to bounce back from setbacks and remain strong. They must cope and learn to move on from what almost or successfully knocked them over, starting life anew and relearning how to brave through future challenges.

Working Past What Seems Like Life’s Final Blow

Author Cynthia J. Giachino shares the fight she won over her demons in Quiet. Fear. Providing glimpses of her life through a character named Lily, Cynthia uncovered the horrors that once surrounded her life and the secrets that burned through it. However, despite the fear that once imprisoned her, Lily kept pushing through and finding a sense of normalcy.

She lost the glue that held her together and felt defeat fill her life.

Depending on people’s resilience, setbacks may often feel like a final blow. They can feel crushing enough, symbolizing that one last push that knocks down the lines of dominoes they’ve worked hard to put up. Regardless of how optimistic people set themselves to be, everyone weakens in the face of failures and setbacks. They can easily drown and be submerged in the strong currents of hopelessness and feel the impossibility of reemerging with hope in their hearts.

The mind believes in what it sees and what its fed.

Hence, to bounce back from setbacks means nurturing resiliency but refocusing the mind on something more powerful than emotional ruins. It takes a little more than simply standing up and dusting oneself. Instead, it also requires the self’s rediscovery amid the labyrinth of defeat and loss. It’s reforming one’s thoughts, reminding it of the courage it once had before it stumbled. Bouncing back calls for people to relearn how to fight and embrace the pain that may come.

Some Ways People Can Bounce Back From Setbacks

Everyone has the proper means and emotional maturity to bounce back from setbacks. All they have to do is nurture these mentalities. Everyone can usurp failures and redeem hope in themselves and the world.

Failure is inevitable, and it doesn’t only happen once.

However, the number of times it reoccurs and the growth of its adverse consequences shouldn’t matter. Instead, what must matter is how people cope with them. This is what makes the difference.

Acceptance Is Always the Key

The most resilient and emotionally mature people don’t shy away from failure. They don’t bask in denying they’ve broken down or were unsuccessful in their pursuit. Instead, they embrace the pain that comes with it and learn from the heartache. The initial step to bounce back from setbacks is to accept them, realize their shortcomings, and acknowledge what they need to succeed.

By accepting their failure, people avoid the blame game and move toward finding resolutions. They accept reality and proactively seek ways to change it.

Reframe How the Mind Sees Setbacks

Once acknowledged, it’s time to reroute where the mind places them. Will they be seen as permanent struggles, impossible to overcome? Or will they be stepping stones to success and life improvement? Those who can train their minds to be flexible, changing how they perceive things have more chances of seeing success and coping with failures. This can also influence how people perceive themselves, thus, influencing how they behave when experiencing these challenges.

Be Honest and Acknowledge How One Genuinely Feels

Although a massive part of coping with failure is moving on from it, this doesn’t mean people aren’t allowed to feel. What comes with setbacks aren’t only physical consequences but also emotional responses. Disappointment, sadness, and frustration are the quiet tails behind failure, and they must be addressed for people to cope healthily and bounce back from setbacks.

However, in the process of acknowledging their feelings, people shouldn’t also wallow in them else they end up drowned and unable to stand back up. They can feel and welcome all these emotions but must also know when to let them go.